Simping For Hina Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Which is still pretty ironic in this entire situation. So ignore that part and answer this: You fell for it MULTIPLE TIMES and still didn't get the SLIGHTEST OF IDEAS to ask/make sure? Really?Let me correct you again: This is only an assumption, we do not know what transpired between Arin and multiple people that hid behind false identities. We only know that it has transpired, so it is rather unintelligent to claim anything of the conversation. So, how about you ask what happened to make sure you get the facts? "hence" nothing, really. Also, girls aren't all the same. They all have the ability to act differently, and there are a lot of different mannerisms that exist between male and female stereotypes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CLG Klavier Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 About 9 times out of 10, though, it's a guy claiming to be a girl. This suggests a VERY BIG research sample, so I just wonder, if Arin got fooled so many times, then...why keep believing in the first place and snap just now? A honest question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Of course, the insincerity of others is another matter, but I do wonder how one would see the situation if they changed it to "I was being cheated on and he said he was single so I wouldn't desist but I only found out after I felt strong emotion for him." Note an utter certainty beyond solipsism is the kind of thing that can not be proved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CLG Klavier Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Of course, the insincerity of others is another matter, but I do wonder how one would see the situation if they changed it to "I was being cheated on and he said he was single so I wouldn't desist but I only found out after I felt strong emotion for him." Note an utter certainty beyond solipsism is the kind of thing that can not be proved.My argument still stands. If Arin really got lied to "9 out of 10 times", then she either has a VERY BIG tolerance for trust, which I kinda envy but that's beyond the point, or it's a huge hyperbole which makes the entire thing seem just silly and hardly believable from my side. I'm trying to be rational here, and if Arin wants to tell us how many times it happened and what exactly happened, we might help. Otherwise this is simply stupid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Arin could admittedly be foolhardy and gullible or willing to give her heart to anybody, though that would mean it would be better to let her come here to disprove what I said with what really happened or reinforce it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CLG Klavier Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Arin could admittedly be foolhardy and gullible or willing to give her heart to anybody, though that would mean it would be better to let her come here to disprove what I said with what really happened or reinforce it.But if that's the truth, then it's no one's fault but Arin's, if she's this foolish, don't you think? Look, I've been completly lied to/dumped/your choice of words 4 times. 4 times someone either lead me by the nose, toyed with me, flat-out lied to me etc. so I KINDA know how this feels, that's why I'm curious as to what ACTUALLY happened in Arin's case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 I'll say it loud and clear. Arin. You're a guy. Who claims to be a girl. And also a lesbian. Do you realize how...strange it sounds? Also is it so hard to ASK? Like you know. Questions. They're good."Of course, I understand the people that ACTUALLY have a reason to portray themselves as female because they're transsexual or other reasons, like myself." Read that line VERY carefully. I'm getting pissed off at people not bothering to pay attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CLG Klavier Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 "Of course, I understand the people that ACTUALLY have a reason to portray themselves as female because they're transsexual or other reasons, like myself." Read that line VERY carefully. I'm getting pissed off at people not bothering to pay attention.And I'm pissed at someone catching me by the words which I later on said to ignore because I misread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 And I'm pissed at someone catching me by the words which I later on said to ignore because I misread.I got the first page when I checked the thread just now, and I already had to correct someone else for not paying attention here. Sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 I particularly used the cheating example to target an experience you might have had in your past. Regardless of one's mindlessness, the social action would be to share an honesty expected out of romantic relationships (particularly with regards to productivity) so that on a mediocre level of thought, such actions should not happen regardless. Ethics are a very low and basic thing that are argued about particularly among average people (the smartest people thinking on levels that transcend ethics) which is why they are expected as a common courtesy. For the commoner, the men were the antagonists, which is certainly the applicable plane of thought here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen of the Abyss Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Alas, I have had my own share of this. A few months ago, I had my 2nd breakup, my 1st after he drugged himself up into a maniac who I thought was gonna die by the end of the next year, and the other who cheated on me. I literally trusted no one after that, and really had a hatred for the world. It probably helped that I grew up in a neighborhood where optimism was low and the crime rate was high, but funk it. I decided though to give one last chance into the world when a guy who was apparently nearby decided to communicate over the webs. He apparently knew me from when I was dating my first bf and apparently knew his manager. (Said first bf works in the music industry) Claimed many false things to me. Among those, he claimed he saw the day when my first bf died, overdosed on drugs. While this would never once have been a surprise to me, it broke my heart deep knowing the boy who I used to have a huge heart for ended up losing himself in himself with such a devouring taste. I ended up clinging on to him more as a result and eventually we decided to meet irl. He had flown into New York for his own job, and having a bit of money, it was no trouble for me at all. However, what came to worst was when I was out and about and from hearing some gossiping on the street, I learned that basically he was one of those fucks who save their money on one huge club night where they bang at the end of it, this was just another way into it. Spent all his money trying to look like who they claim to be, catch em, funk em, then leave em. I left as he tried pushing me in, and I felt like the world was laughing at me. Here I encountered this guy who, although had a short encounter with my ex and knew a few things, used them all to turned it into a whole scam that I almost got caught in the middle of. As if that wasn't enough, he lied that my ex was dead, and he was traveling in the city every weekend. The reason why I mention all this? Because it's realistic. There are reasons why people do this. There are reasons why you put your trust in people through one situation or another, and then they take advantage of that with bs like this. You say it's utterly ridiculous, they deserve it, or they shouldn't be putting themselves in that sort of thing, but when you run in the situation yourself, you really understand it. I hope somewhere I put something valuable. I'll end here and leave my statements on this thread done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not-so-Radiant Arin Posted July 12, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 @Klav: There's too much to quote here so I'm going to summarize everything you've said into one post. I will admit that I was a bit exaggerating on my part, but it's happened to me and my friends so many times I lost count. Since you wanted me to share a story, I had a really good girl friend that I used to have a crush on. This was back when I was still interested in this one game and we would have Skype calls all the time in private. It was almost like the perfect relationship, except that her heart was already taken by someone else. But because of it, she had to give up so much for this one person: her social life, the friends she had, basically everything. And when the guy who was supposedly a girl came to confess, it broke her down. It made her want to kill herself. And it was pretty much due solely to the fact that he just...didn't care. At all. He was nothing but a toy to her, destroying everything she loved because of it. And when I tried to comfort her, it only made things much worse. She wanted to kill herself. She wanted to kill everyone else. She disappeared for a month and I never saw her again after that. All because of this one man. Before that, she had two men claiming to be females online confess to her, but to a less...drastic degree. Now, you might be saying to yourself of this whole situation "it's her fault for being gullible in the first place". But you have to remember as well, we tend to disregard logic and only seek out affection because it's what we WANT to feel in a relationship. The phrase "Logic never applies to love, it's based purely on romance" comes to mind. And besides, we're not omnipotent; we can't know everything that's going on at once. This man that I had referenced before had played his cards so well so not even the picture trick would work. He even made an alternate account on Skype that was just a ruse to get people to win him over to his side. And because of that, I feel as though I've been pushed in the opposite direction when it comes to finding romance in online dating. If someone as truly as despicable and deplorable as that can get away with doing something as heinous as this, then it doesn't surprise me that the person I had a crush on really did break down and want to die. After leaving and quitting that game, I started falling for someone again, but then that's when I got cheated on. That's a whole different story that I would like to leave out solely because it's not important. After that, I've never really been trustworthy of people who claim to be female. Even if they would show me a picture of themselves, I would always dismiss it. In this day and age, you can NEVER be sure that the person on the other end is a faker. Skype Calls and voice chat? Voice modulators exist to raise/lower the pitch of your voice. And pictures? They could have been f***ing Google'd. Who honestly knows? So in regards to the "make sure" post, you can never ever ever be sure. I then found someone named Sam who had a few..."quirks". Unfortunately, I picked up on these quirks quite quickly and noticed some things wrong. But I want to stick around just to be sure. I honestly hope this judgment call of mine is wrong, but with the way things are looking now, it's not looking good. Yesterday, I was having a Skype call with her. But while they were sharing their screen with me, I couldn't help but notice that there was the name "Ben" in the top right-hand corner of that little Chrome screen. I didn't want to assume, since she DID claim to have a brother and that could just be her brother's Google account, but with the way she's been avoiding me now constantly I feel as though I've been betrayed. It's a dangerous game to play, honestly. Sometimes you go all-in and the payoff is big, other times, you have to know when to fold and take a rest. I just haven't known when to fold yet, I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peridank Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 My facebook says I'm female but its for shits and giggles a few years back... I have been to lazy to change it back since. And there are other things I have done that go with this article. Until I read that last paragraph I was going to go off... Luckily I severely lack doing anything horny and or sexual online... I see where you are coming from and its funked up. Someone would have to be stupid to look at my facebook and say "yep its a girl" without looking at my posts and other sheet like that. A simple pm and ill tell ya I'm a dude. My best advice is to Skype before hand. So you can see there face before anything else. Of they are reluctant just tell them to get a hold of you as soon as they can... Then you'll know. (There is also the predator hunt/troll thing which is somewhat better) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smear Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 dang its getting tumblr in here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bury the year Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 People thought I was a girl for 2 years on another forum b/c I used emojis and chat, and because my alias isn't exactly the most gender-definitive. Okayed along with the ambiguity for a while. When I revealed it, bricks were shat. ...this has nothing to do with the current train of conversation but is still funny, so. :'D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smear Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 pretty sure its widely known that im a guy and i pull chix on ycm obv Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas★Zero Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Sorry to hear that Arin. Plus I liked your post to agree with it since it is kinda a dick move to pretend to be a girl for that reason >_>. For me am just going by a internet persona. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 pretty sure its widely known that im a guyand i pull chix on ycm obvYou're a dude? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G4hardcore Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Ugh no Just assume everyone in the internet is the opposite of what you're looking for until you have a certified copy of their birth certificate. Even then, be careful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Ugh no Just assume everyone in the internet is the opposite of what you're looking for until you have a certified copy of their birth certificate. Even then, be careful.Guess I am screwed then.I am into everyone, funk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larxene Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Well, this is awkward. I regret nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 and i pull chix on ycm obv all 3 of them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 all 3 of themI am genuinely hurt if you mean this! Prepare to be modded by a non-mod you powerless creep! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 I am genuinely hurt if you mean this! Prepare to be modded by a non-mod you powerless creep! can't tell if you're serious or not but there are significantly more males than there are females on this site, just facts yo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 can't tell if you're serious or not but there are significantly more males than there are females on this site, just facts yoOf course not. More importantly, I certainly don't need the confidence of another to acknowledge how I feel about myself. You can usually tell because I don't need feminine imagery to reinforce my identity so the confidence is totally there. You should know well enough that I would not be genuinely hurt by words here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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