Motivation and Stress

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I have none of it. Let me explain...

Lately, as in the past 2 years, my brain has taken up the attitude of "Eh, good enough" and decided that I don't need motivation to do anything anymore. I've basically been mildly depressed for a while. I've had to force myself to do even the simplest tasks, like showering or preparing food. The worst part of it? I don't even care.

My brain is hardwired to not feel stress, from what I can tell. This means that I don't care if I don't eat for a day, or don't shower for 3. Hell, I've been living in my messy-ass room where I can't even see the floor for a month+.

I'm a mess, and my brain doesn't care.

But that doesn't mean I don't care. I want to succeed. I want to get better. I just dont know how to go about it.

Dearest YCMers, how do you go about motivating yourselves and dealing with stress?

[Yui]

This honestly could be a damn fine thread in General. I can move it if you want.

 

That aside, being in the same boat as you for the last few years, you'd be surprised how much of an impact menial things you don't really care to do can have on making you care. Showering daily, at least in recent experience of mine, can really improve your mood and make you actually give a damn. It even got me to shave which I'd been overdue for for some time before this morning. Setting a day of the week to do a bigger task, such as cleaning your room, and doing that on that specified day, may also help a bit, though I can't personally confirm if this would do any good or not. Independence and some degree of discipline, at least for me, seem to be at least a good first step out of that dreaded rut that is depression.

Not that I have a lot of independence or anything.

[ÆƵ–]

This honestly could be a damn fine thread in General. I can move it if you want.

 

That aside, being in the same boat as you for the last few years, you'd be surprised how much of an impact menial things you don't really care to do can have on making you care. Showering daily, at least in recent experience of mine, can really improve your mood and make you actually give a damn. It even got me to shave which I'd been overdue for for some time before this morning. Setting a day of the week to do a bigger task, such as cleaning your room, and doing that on that specified day, may also help a bit, though I can't personally confirm if this would do any good or not. Independence and some degree of discipline, at least for me, seem to be at least a good first step out of that dreaded rut that is depression.

Not that I have a lot of independence or anything.

Go for it my dude. While youre at it, I made a dupe thread on accident and would like it locked / deleted

[Yui]

Go for it my dude. While youre at it, I made a dupe thread on accident and would like it locked / deleted

Done. Thread is moved (and I also went ahead and appropriately removed the [serious] tag, since that sorta applies in general in General) and the dupe is deleted.

[Darj]

I guess I deal with stress by procrastinating and playing games, watching movies and streams or any other kind of entertainment, then completing my tasks eventually or at the last day(s). I know it's not a good habit, but in the meantime, it make me get things done.

As for motivation, not really an expert on this field but from my personal experience I would say that having defined goals in life helps a lot. Even if they may be deemed as unrealistic by some, I have my personal goals that at the end of the day are what motivate to do stuff. Heck, I dare to say that even unrealistic goals help, as long as they push you forward. But IDK if in your case you would have to define those goals first.

Another thing that works for me, that others may find silly, is having a muse. Yeah, it sounds weird but having some sort of, let's say, crush on someone, helps me a lot by motivating me to get better, live better, etc. It may work better if you think that said person is out of your league, but just thinking that said person deserves the best version of yourself, regardless if you get together at the end or not... in my case it may not do miracles but it keeps me moving forward, or at the very least not stopping from trying.

 

So, if there is anything I can recommend you, is defining your life goals, and if possible find a muse, crush or whatever.