Rejection

[Simping For Hina]

Curious topic. How do you guys deal with rejection? I just ask someone else out and move on. I also have gotten some of the weirdest rejection texts, this one being my favorite as of late:

 

 

So, what are ways you deal with rejection and what are some of the weirder ways you have gotten/or have rejected people?

[(GigaDrillBreaker)]

Man, I really really hope that was a dude.

 

As for me, it's complicated. For the most part, I deal with it well, since it's pretty easy to understand that everyone has their own tastes, and if someone isn't into you, it's only as much their fault as it is yours. Sometimes person a will be attracted to person b, and no matter how great person a is, person b just doesn't feel the same way about them, and that's totally okay. I've spent a lot of my life trying to get approval from various people, and it took me far too long to realize that sometimes things just don't work out. It's caused me a lot of grief, but each time I've come out the other side an improved person.

 

As for funny rejections... I surprisingly don't have any good stories for that, at least none that immediately spring to mind.

[Sunshine Jesse]

Usually I recontextualize my feelings towards the person who rejected me and place more value on the things I don't need to be dating them for. If I can't do that, I probably dodged a bullet. Sometimes I do that before I ask them out and stop wanting to. Rejection isn't something I find that difficult, because I don't place that much value on the idea of dating someone. If I like someone enough, it's just a bonus, because I want close friends a lot more than romantic partners. I've always been that way.

 

Funniest way I ever rejected someone was by stone-facing my way through their attempts to feel me up (while playing D&D online with some friends) and saying "no thanks" every time they tried to do something more intimate. It was one of the most hilariously passive aggressive things I've ever done in my life. I'm really bad at giving firm denials to people IRL.

[~British Soul~]

I'd say I'm love-shy as I haven't asked a girl out in years (I think the last time was in middle school and that was like 11 years ago), probs because I think they're likely out of my league, or perhaps it's a case of me fearing rejection hence why I don't actively go out and ask a girl out.

That being said, on a different tangent I mainly experience rejection on the job front and whilst it's frustrating to get rejected by a company that I apply for, it's happened so many times, I simply shrug it off and move on.

[~ P O L A R I S ~]

There's nothing to be gained from rejecting someone outright. 

 

I do my best to make the most of any proposition I get. If it doesn't work right away I leave the door open if there's even the slightest possibility that it could work out later. By the same coin, if anyone rejects me it's their loss. 

 

Love and sex between adults are bliss regardless of age and physique. I've walked away from every one of the hundreds of amorous experiences I've had feeling happy and fulfilled. ^_^ Love is an extremely rewarding skill and I'd encourage anyone to practise and hone it as much as they can. Rejecting someone is a failure to apply love where it's called for. 

[Mr. Best Male 2008]

I've only been rejected once and that's when I was 15. I just handled it how I feel like most people should and just move on. It's not as hard as people make it out to be. As for rejecting I've done it an unfortunate amount of times. I usually say "I'm gay, sorry" or "I've got church that day, sorry bud" and they generally understand that it's a no.

[Phelphor, of the Deep]

You assume He/She wasn't gay? You need to check your privilege.

 

 

[LordCowCowCowCowCowCowCowCow]

 

This post is spam/off topic. This is General, not Misc, please refrain from this sorta thing in the future.

[Tentacruel]

Rejection sucks dick, but to be completely honest, it's better than lingering forever or orbiting around someone.  Pick yourself and move forward.